no one deserves to be called such names. not from a stranger, and definitely not from a family member.
i too have a father with high ego. a man who never admits that he might be wrong in any way. but sometimes i remind myself, "afterall he's just a normal man."
when i was young i had a father-figure-expectation on him; from the books i read and stories i've heard telling me what a father should be like. reliable, supportive, always have my back.
but as i grew, i realized he's just a man who became a father at some point in his life. a normal man, who might not even have the maturity and ability to be a father.
what i want to say is, we should not be responsible for that. we should not have to bear the consequences of his immaturity. those words he said aren't true. it's just their way of proving they're more powerful, that they have the ability to hurt us.
i truly hope you will be able to recover from this. wishing you a early 24th birthday, inês! one day we will be strong enough to decide who can hurt us.
this was such a personal and wonderful read. i somewhat relate to you about your insights about family. you don’t deserve to be called names, not by anyone and not by someone you love.
i, too, have been called sensitive as an insult and someone who takes things to heart ‘too much’. i sit and wonder maybe if i wasn’t being ‘so difficult’ would it change everything? was it really my obligation to suck it up and keep the family environment happy and peaceful? these things always bothered me and still do. i don’t even quite understand myself how did i reach those conclusions.
i’m glad you articulated it so well. thank you for writing. i felt every word.
no one deserves to be called such names. not from a stranger, and definitely not from a family member.
i too have a father with high ego. a man who never admits that he might be wrong in any way. but sometimes i remind myself, "afterall he's just a normal man."
when i was young i had a father-figure-expectation on him; from the books i read and stories i've heard telling me what a father should be like. reliable, supportive, always have my back.
but as i grew, i realized he's just a man who became a father at some point in his life. a normal man, who might not even have the maturity and ability to be a father.
what i want to say is, we should not be responsible for that. we should not have to bear the consequences of his immaturity. those words he said aren't true. it's just their way of proving they're more powerful, that they have the ability to hurt us.
i truly hope you will be able to recover from this. wishing you a early 24th birthday, inês! one day we will be strong enough to decide who can hurt us.
the truth in your words … you have so much strength and softness in you. i love you.
hi. happy birthday in advance!
this was such a personal and wonderful read. i somewhat relate to you about your insights about family. you don’t deserve to be called names, not by anyone and not by someone you love.
i, too, have been called sensitive as an insult and someone who takes things to heart ‘too much’. i sit and wonder maybe if i wasn’t being ‘so difficult’ would it change everything? was it really my obligation to suck it up and keep the family environment happy and peaceful? these things always bothered me and still do. i don’t even quite understand myself how did i reach those conclusions.
i’m glad you articulated it so well. thank you for writing. i felt every word.
i really appreciate this one. thank you for sharing this, happy early birthday, and my heart is with you!